Mom's the Word!: April 2004

Monday, April 26, 2004

Funny, I though life was a right.

All this crap that's been splashed across the headlines this weekend and today is literally making me ill.

What I'm talking about is the so-called "March for Women's Lives" and their "Right to have an Abortion" Um, oxymoron? What "women's lives"? certainly not the unborn women.

I myself have never heard of a woman that died because she was not "allowed" to have an abortion.

I have, however, heard of cases where women developed severe life-threatening infections stemming from having an abortion. Also, even the "abortion pill" is questionable in that last year a young woman died after from severe hemmoraging taking this supposedly "safe" drug.

What's with the Medical Students for Choice and their "We are tomorrow's abortion providers" signs? I mean, is that something to actually be proud of? I highly doubt that if you asked any of these twits years from now what they do for a living, that they'd pipe up "I perform abortions for a living and I'm damned proud of it!" They would more than likely give you a convoluted answer such as "I'm a women's health provider", or some such nonsense.

Also, what the media doesn't show are the downright stupid and sometimes evil signs people were carrying... like "Viva la Vulva", "Barbara (Bush) chose poorly", "Keep your gospel out of my vagina", "Keep your rosaries off my ovaries", "I am not a damn incubator" and my personal favorite: "The only Bush I trust is my own"

Ok, so don't get pregnant then. Also, no one ever brings up the rights (or lack of rights) the father of the child has. I mean, if you have the baby, he is financially responsible for that child until he or she is 18. But if you want an abortion. No problem! He isn't even considered. Meaning if I wanted to, I could go today and without my husband's knowlege or consent, abort his unborn baby. That's just great. Because it's my "RIGHT." and "My body." Not his. Give me a freaking break. And these Planned Parenthood people want the same thing for the underage girls of America. Yup, they can't even give her an Advil in school without your permission, and missy, don't even try to get your ears pierced at the mall without your parent present, but they want to let your 14 year old daughter get an abortion without you so much as having a clue. AAK!

Good god, the contraceptive choices our generation has access to are mind boggling. We have: male condoms, female condoms, film, foam, the sponge, diaphragms, cervical cap, the pill, the patch, the ring, IUDs, Depo shots, Norplant, and not to mention good old Natural Family Planning, withdrawal method, and of course, abstinance!

If you ask me there are plenty of "choices" available, none of which involve aborting a child. Adoption, anyone?

I had a girlfriend in high school who was raped by her mother's boyfriend when she was 14. She got pregnant. She had the baby and placed him with a lovely couple for adoption. She told me why she didn't have an abortion, even though her mother wanted her to.

She said, "Christine, I couldn't live with myself knowing I did that. That baby boy did nothing wrong. Just because the way he was conceived was an ugly thing, it doesn't make him any less a beautiful human being. I would keep him, if the memory of what happened to me didn't spring to mind each time I saw his face."

She has since gotten married to a wonderful man and has three young children.

No one is trying to make abortion illegal anyhow. Because in Roe V. Wade, at the time, the Supreme Court didn't have the balls to set limits on when abortions could be performed, it is now necessery to put limitations on late-term abortions. You cannot now wait until the 2nd or 3rd trimester and hem and haw about what to do, and then go terminate a pregnancy. There is no question that there is a viable baby in there.

I mean, I am 12 weeks pregnant right now. The baby is fully formed, has brain waves, and a heartbeat, and is moving all around.

It never ceases to amaze me when I watch these health programs about premature babies, or multiples born at 4 or 5 months. They are tiny, yes, they are helpless, but they are fully formed with the exception underdeveloped lungs, but other than that they can survive.

And guess what? The doctors do everything in their power to make sure they survive. They place them in the NICU, and take care of them.

How then, can any doctor who has taken the Hippocratic Oath and swears to

"EXTEND YOUR KNOWLEDGE WITH NEW INFORMATION THAT MEDICAL SCIENCE WILL ACQUIRE IN THE COURSE OF TIME AND TO APPLY IT VIGOROUSLY FOR THE BENEFIT OF MANKIND"

and to "PROCEED WITH DUE HUMANITY TOWARDS EVERYONE" how, can they then abort these same tiny beings?

This of course, is just my opinion... but I don't know what I'm talking about.... I was born to a barely 18 year old mother, who had a friend offer to pay for an abortion for her to "get rid" of me because I was "unwanted" and "unplanned" and altogether an "inconvienience" At least she had sense enough not to take her 'friend' up on that offer. After all, I'm having her grandchild in November.

PS: One of my liberal "pro-choice" friends is being induced today. Her pregnancy was completely unplanned, and she and boyfriend had only dated for about 1 1/2 months when she got pregnant. Now they are going to get married, and her baby boy Gabriel Anthony will be born today. I guess she made the right "choice."

posted by T.J.'s Mommy @ 9:06 AM

Thursday, April 22, 2004

There's a fundus among us!

I went to my ob/gyn appt. today. After 10 minutes of anxiety-ridden (mine and Jeff's) searching, the tech found our bean sprout's heatbeat. Whew! The doc came in, spoke to us briefly, measured my fundus, and declared the babe's growth right on track. they didn't do an ultrasound though. :( But he said at the 20 week mark we can do one on tape and try to find out if it's a boy or a girl. I scheduled my next appt. for 6/3 so I can have the AFP test drawn at that appt. instead of coming back twice in a short period of time.

After the appointment Jeff and I went to Ellie's for root beer floats. Yummy. We are so happy about the news that our baby is doing well. This was a major milestone for us today, as we never got to hear the heartbeat of our angel.

I also ordered the doppler today that we're renting. It should be here early next week. That will help alliviate my stress also. My doc warned that we won't always be able to find the heartbeat so not to flip out if that happens, just to try again later. Easier said than done, I'm sure.

Jeff's Grandma was let out of the hospital today. She's quite happy with that. Although she can't drive for 6 weeks cause of the incisions. So we're going to be doing her errands and shopping and such for her. I will cook for her if she wants me to. Although she is very stubborn and will most likely insist on doing most things for herself.

I am sleepy. I made wasabi panko salmon with honey teriyaki glaze and jasmine rice and broccoli for dinner tonight. It rocked!

Jeff is snoring on the couch now. I'd better take my prenatals and wake him so we can go cuddle in bed. Just me, my hubby and our baby-to-be. Ahh.

Life is good.

posted by T.J.'s Mommy @ 10:43 PM 0 comments

Tuesday, April 20, 2004

Morphine is some wacky shit!

We went and saw Gramma in the hospital yesterday. The morphine has her talking all kinds of craziness. She must have asked us what day it was at least 10 times. We were only there an hour which is like, once every every 5 minutes. So that was pretty weird.

And she asked if we'd seen Jeff's two uncles and we said no we'd been working all day and hadn't seen or heard from them at all. Right after that she asked what we had for lunch, we told her Jack in the Box, and she said "Oh, that's where Steve and Ron ate, did you all have lunch together?" Cripes.

At least they were letting her drink water and juice and eat broth and

Jell-o-like stuff. She hadn't eaten or had much besides ice chips since Friday.

Then she started asking if her doctor taped her. Like video taped? Why on earth would he do that? And a buncha other weird stuff. She's all loopy. I know it's only a temporary situation, but it pains us to see her like that.

So, I think Jeff is just going to go by after work for a bit... I'm probably just going to skip it for today. They're probably keeping her 'til Friday by the looks of it. She still has drains in place so all the ickiness can come out, and they need to sew her incisions up, and make sure she can eat solids, and eliminate on her own.

God... I don't want to get old and have my body start betraying me....

Hopefully once this is all over, the next time we'll step into the hospital won't be till November when we have this baby.

I have my ob/gyn appt. on Thursday. I so hope everything is ok.... I think it is.... but hearing that heartbeat is going to make me feel a thousand times better!

Well, off to eat a peanut butter and spun clover honey sandwich now, and finish folding clothes, and downloading illicit music from the net. After that... a nap is in my future.

posted by T.J.'s Mommy @ 1:29 PM

Sunday, April 18, 2004

Oh... you mean that's abnormal?!

Jeff's Grandma has been complaining of not feeling well and having diarrhea for the past two weeks. We've tried and tried to make her go to the Dr. but she'd ignored us. She's a stubborn lady, of 71. She works for H & R Block during tax season... this being the busiest time of the year and all. She figured she'd just wait until it was over to seek medical attention.

Well, Friday morning, she finally went to an Urgent Care facilty. They promptly sent her to the ER. Although she kept insisting that it was nothing at all ... through the blood workups and the CT Scan... we knew it wasn't NOTHING. Well, we were right in our assumption. She had surgery yesterday for a perforated appendix. It burst over a week ago, and was happily seeping nastiness into her other organs. Silly lady! She had the surgery and is recovering at the hospital for a couple more days. They want to be sure all infections are cleared up and that she can eat and go to the bathroom on her own. They're witholding food and most water in case they have to go back in...

So all is going well. Jeff's two uncles are here for support. We invited them over for dinner and the Sopranos. We're having stuffed shells tonight. MMM.

posted by T.J.'s Mommy @ 5:14 PM

Sunday, April 11, 2004

Chocolate and taxes

Ahh.... so Friday I met with Gramma to do our taxes. We owe almost $10k... BUT after we put some $ into our IRA... so they don't get any more than they have to. My working this year put us into a higher tax bracket. Joy. I'm basically working to pay the IRS. But at least when the baby is born we get exemptions, and since I won't be working we'll actually be in better shape financially. How much sense does that make? NOT!!!

Stupid tax system. I've always wanted a flat tax. It's a lot more fair than the way it is now.

I haven't been feeling sick the last few days. Tired, yes. Sick, no. Peeing 4-5 times a night, yes.

Well, as long as the weeks keep going by this fast it'll be ok. I'm almost safely out of the first trimester. I have my original Dr. appt scheduled still for the 22nd. That will be another milestone, I'll be 11 1/2 weeks. Right where I SHOULD have been when I started bleeding and cramping in Dec.

Crossing all appendages. My tummy is starting to pooch out. I haven't gained any weight, but I have to wear maternity jeans, cause my regular ones do NOT fit any longer.

I don't know if I can conceal this from my co-worker and patients for much longer... otherwise they'll think I've been hitting the Haagen-Daas too hard.

Anyway... that's about it here. Must go eat another Cadbury Creme Egg.... the brought us a

posted by T.J.'s Mommy @ 9:56 PM

Thursday, April 08, 2004

Woo hoo!

Great news!!! Baby is great! It was even waving at us, and wiggling around. My Dr. said that it's a healthy baby cause sick babies don't move around like that! I'm measuring right on for dates, and he thinks the spotting was either from my cervix or from the placenta attaching to my uterus.

Huge sigh of relief!!

Time for my nap now...

~christine

posted by T.J.'s Mommy @ 9:54 PM 0 comments

More than a little scary

Sorry I've been MIA. I've had all day sickness this last week, and all I've wanted to do when I got home from work is sleep!

Late Tuesday night I had some brownish spotting. And a little yesterday. I've had no pain, but needless to say it freaked me out. I am going into the dr. today at 12:30 for an u/s. The spotting has completely stopped, so I hope it was a fluke. I broke down crying Tuesday night before bed, when I went pee, and saw it on the t.p. My dh is so wonderful and held me while I sobbed about not being able to go through this a 2nd time. He told me not to give up hope and that everything is probably fine.

It probably is just fine, although there is always that terrible nagging feeling in the back of my head. As long as the u/s shows everything is ok, I'll feel so much better. My dh can't be there today because he has out of town meetings. It's the first time I'll be going by myself. I SO hope there's good news, cause I don't think I could drive the 20 minutes back home knowing I was having it happen again Anyway, please keep me in your thoughts, and I'll post when I know for sure what's happening. PS: Jeff just called and said he's on his way back early, so he is going to be able to be with me at my appt. I feel very happy for that!

posted by T.J.'s Mommy @ 11:04 AM

Tuesday, April 06, 2004

Mmmm... food!

I am making rosmary roasted chicken for dinner and garlic smashed potatoes... mmmm. I am also roasting some sweet potatoes for myself to eat later this week cause they're full 'o vitamins and good stuff.

I spent today out and about... cause honestly, I never made it out of the house last posting. The overwhelming nausea that washed over me made it scary to think about driving.

So, I went to Long's and Target and bought some Easter basket goodies, and cleaning stuff made by Method that's not harmful for me to use while preggo. And a much needed new toilet brush, cause the other one icked me out to even touch it. I think it came with the last house. I went to our local place, The Bagel Bakery and had a great Turkey, sprout, avacado, and tomato bagel sandwich on a superseed bagel for lunch. I went to Borders for a while and read baby books... I found this hilarious one, "You're Pregnant: A Guide for the Longest Nine Months of Your Life" by Kathryn Hammer I was reading it and laughing out loud... garnering strange bemused looks. Something about vanilla Haagen Daz being a very important source of calcium. And this: here Woah!! My house just started filling up with smoke.... had to go air it out... note to self... must self clean oven this weekend. Lasagna boilover on Sunday rendered my oven a smoke-machine. I did not cook last night due to a splitting headache so I had a yummy huge chicken salad from Jack-in-the-box instead for dinner.

I don't have to work til 2pm tomorrow, cause my co-worker is going to her niece's open house (her 1st one... Kindergarten... aww.) so I was nice and switched with her. No nap for me tomorrow afternoon. But I only have to work 4 1/2 hours instead of 6, so that's ok with me.

I am officially in my 8th week of pregnancy now. We told Jeff's Granmma the other day. He was talking to her about our taxes (she works @ H & R Block during tax season, so she's doing ours this year) She actually asked point blank. He couldn't lie. Not to Gramma. She was very happy, and understands why we didn't tell her right away this time.

Starving right now. MMM. The house smells so good! I have to go find something appropriate to snack on.... bye bye.

posted by T.J.'s Mommy @ 6:49 PM 0 comments

Thursday, April 01, 2004

MMM.... squishy!

The last two days I have been nauseous. Like all day. I didn't throw up, but the threat was there... Why, oh why do they call it morning sickness?? It should be called all day sickness!

The silver lining? I think this is a good sign that I'm feeling squishy. When I was pg with my angel, I didn't feel this way once. I've been reading that the hormones that are needed to sustain a healthy pregnancy cause these icky feelings.

Still, feeling sick sucks no matter how you look at it. Spicy foods, greasy foods, tomatoes, and fruit all give me indigestion. I ate an entire box of Mac and cheese the other day because that is what seemed the most bland, creamy, comforting, and appealing in my poor stomache.

Today feels somewhat better, however, yesterday it didn't get bad until the afternoon, so we'll see.

I feel fortunate to have this (albeit unpleasant) reminder that something amazing is going on inside my body... even though no one can tell yet that I'm pregnant.

I think I will go out in a bit... maybe cruise the book store, and go get a Jamba Juice or something. MMM... Jamba. I haven't gone there in forever.

posted by T.J.'s Mommy @ 10:13 AM

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